June 2013
May 2013
It’s one of those nights where everything keeps flooding my mind. Those deep dark negative thoughts in the deepest end of your brain, always lingering waiting to be unleashed
In a beautiful relationship of almost three years but sometimes I feel so single
There is an "ugly" side to beauty (and more need to know of it)
”It’s natural to feel threatened by beautiful women,” Dr. Debbie said. “Everyone feels that way, but no one talks about it. It’s part of being female.”
Dr. Debbie went on to explain that it’s a result of the age-old culture trap that has ensnared women for generations-where we’re still valued for our looks instead of for our brains, education or sparkling personalities.
“Even today, a woman’s success is largely tied into landing and marrying a successful man, and that success has a lot to do with how attractive she is,” said Dr. Debbie. “This leads to a lot of competitive, hostile feelings between women from an early age. So if you have a best friend who looks like Molly Sims, it will be extremely threatening for most women.”
In fact, we mere mortal women are so threatened by Beautiful Girls (BGs), we instinctively avoid them. “Women have a tendency to link up with women who are equally ‘packaged,’ ” Dr. Debbie said. “Average-looking women gravitate toward other average-looking women while beautiful women stick together.”
But to get back to the issue of why I resent BGs so much, I offered Dr. Debbie a theory of my own. “Don’t you think part of the resentment we feel is because we assume that if a woman’s beautiful, her life is perfect?” I asked.
“Absolutely,” agreed Dr. Debbie. “We all assume that beautiful women have everything, that they’re wealthy, smart and lead totally wonderful lives. This fuels even more feelings of inadequacy, competition and hostility among other women.”
Dr. Debbie, however, was quick to point out that this assumption is false for many reasons.
“What no one realizes is the disadvantages to being beautiful,” she said. “Many beautiful women never get a chance to test themselves beyond their looks, and they live in fear of losing their looks. Plus, being beautiful can be lonely. Beautiful women find it difficult to have female friends due to the jealousy factor. And a lot of men don’t approach them because they’re afraid of rejection. They feel safer approaching more average-looking women.”
